Long-Distance Relationships: Can They Work?

Keeping Love Alive Across Miles

Let’s face it: long-distance relationships are not for everyone. You get a lot of late-night chats via video, a lot of texting and constant reminders of missing someone so much that it hurts you. But if done properly, they can actually work! Let’s make it happen step by step.

Communication Is Everything

Communication is what binds a long-distance relationship together. But here’s the catch — it’s not enough to just say, “I miss you.” You need to share your day, share your feelings, and share even your silly little thoughts. Video calls, texts, voice messages, whatever works for you, just keep talking.
Pro tip: agree on a call schedule that designate behaviors which work for both of you. Nobody likes being asked with a midnight, “Hey, you up?” when they have to work the next day.

Trust Is Non-Negotiable

Jealousy and distance don’t go together very well. Trust your partner, or your relationship will fall apart faster than a cookie. If you are feeling insecure, communicate. Don’t let questions become large problems.

Additionally, don’t be a detective. If you are monitoring their social media looking for evidence, it is time to have a serious conversation — with them, not their Instagram.

Keep Things Fun

A long-distance relationship doesn’t have to be serious talk and counting down the days until you see each other. Share in the fun while playing online games together, watching movies at the same time, or even just sending each other funny memes. Little things may help keep the spark alive.
Sometimes spontaneous surprises, such as a care package or a handwritten note can create a big impact too! Who can say no to some happy mail?

Plan Visits

Being together in person is like refreshing your relationship. Keep planned visits, and make them special! Remember memories — just a weekend together can create enough memories to last until your next trip.

If meeting in person often is difficult, then establish a timeline. Just knowing the date you’ll close the gap provides the excitement of anticipating it — you, and your partner, will have something to look forward to!

Set Goals for the Future

What is the future of this relationship? It’s a large question and an important one. Long distance relationships can’t be long distance forever, so you should both talk about your plans together. Who’s moving where? When? Having a specific destination makes it easier to wait while you’re separated.

Take Care of Yourself

Keep in mind that you are not only “somebody’s partner.” You have your own life to live — and you should. Continue to hang with friends and do the things you enjoy, because a happy, energized, and fulfilled person is a better partner.

So, Can They Work?

Of course! Long-distance relationships are not easy, however they can survive and sometimes even flourish with good communication, trust, and a little creativity! You will learn patience, appreciate the small things, and foster a strong connection. If you’re in a long-distance relationship, you should give yourself a high-five! Sure, it’s not the most straight forward road, but it’s worth it when you are traveling right down that road with the right partner.